Ever wish to be the “popular” person? Have more friends than you know what to do with? We all crave the affections and adoration of others, it’s part of our make up to want acceptance and approval from our piers. However, few ever fully understand the real things that make us attractive to others. This is absolutely vital as we seek to gain influence in the lives of those around us for the Kingdom of God. I have seen several habits that actually make people “crave” to be around you…
1. Listen to others’ ideas.
Nobody likes a “know it all.” So get over your own ideas, and actually become interested in someone else’s ideas. We all like to talk about ourselves and what we think. So, when we find a person who cares what we think, Bam! We love to be with them!
2.Speak only good things about others.
Let me tell you a little secret. If you think talking about others, just the things, “you heard” is going to win you juicy friends, you are in for a world of hurt! If you talk negatively about someone else around someone, they are going to ask themselves, “what are they saying about me?” Gossip will ruin your reputation and sabotage trust in a friendship, don’t go there!
3. Give generously when you can.
Nobody likes a “mooch!” Don’t develop a reputation as the “cheap-o” of the group. Proverbs says “everyone is a friend to him who gives gifts.” Generosity makes people feel valued, and not used! So always pick-up one or two more checks, bring something to dinner. Be the one everyone knows will be generous. Not an issue of amount, but rather attitude! Remember the “mite.”
4. Initiate with others.
If you are sitting by the phone, waiting for the invitation.. you are in for a long wait! Get over yourself and make the contact. I know it is hard, always feeling you have to make the first move, but that’s just the way it is. People feel appreciated and valued when we make the first move, but don’t keep score! Just always make the move. Done!
5. Authenticity is irreplaceable!
Don’t put on a mask. Don’t try and be several different people around different groups. You will always be found out! Be yourself! Trust who God made you to be. If they don’t like you, you don’t need them. Find, initiate and love those who love you for you! They are the only ones that will be there when you need a true friend!
These are some things I have noticed that make me attracted to others, even makes them “craveable!” Any others you have noticed?