Do you Pee your Pants, when your wife demands change?

March 14, 2011
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I about pee my pants, when I hear my wife say, "honey we need to talk." Maybe I’m the only guy…man enough to admit it, but some of you do too! Those words put a deep sick feeling in the pit of my stomach.

My wife’s words have the greatest impact. No one else can speak life…, courage, faith or love into my life like my wife. On the flip side, no one else can speak hurt, feelings of disappointment or doubt as quickly. So when a planned "talk" comes, it generally means the latter.

As a strong willed, determined leader, having your wife tell you things need to be changed, is not easy. Especially when you may not agree with some of the issues. This is the "Bottom Line" love your wife! Having recently faced a situation like this myself, I give you this challenge, do anything short of disobeying God to demonstrate your love to your wife.

No matter how far you go, no matter what you may "seemingly" accomplish for the Kingdom, will be voided by a lost marriage. Listen to your wives my brothers. She should be your greatest friend, most trusted adviser and fellow visionary. Your oneness with her must be guarded at all costs.

If you have to pee your pants from time to time, for the sake of your marriage, unity and ministry. Let it rip, you can always change your pants, but not your wife!

What say you?

 

About artie: I'm the lead Pastor at Cornerstone, a Multi-Ethnic church in the heart of Orangeburg, South Carolina. Also the founder of the Comb Network.com, a movement to plant Multi-Ethnic, culturally relevant churches in smaller cities. I direct a gathering of small city leader called "The Sticks."

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  • http://thinkspurlove.blogspot.com David

    Great stuff! Thanks for adding the Evernote button.

    • Anonymous

      Thanks David! I added the button at your request!

  • http://aprilhawk.wordpress.com April

    Great post! Marriage is teamwork! Would not have it any other way. I shared this with my hubby and his comment was "great words to live by."

    • Anonymous

      You gotta a good man there April! Thanks sis.

  • http://www.bensayin.com Ben Nunes

    Having my wife give her input is paramount, and being on the same "team" was something we struggled with in the beginning. I’m so glad it’s different now, we go to each other and speak encouragement and wisdom, and love to one another. It’s made a world of a difference in our ministry.

    • Anonymous

      Great truth there Ben. One thing we are learning is that after almost 30 years of marriage, we have to keep re-learning it, just in a different context. Blessings my brother.

  • Kristi

    I wish my husband would have just paid attention to the scripture you have posted.

    • Anonymous

      Your heart sounds wounded and broken. I pray for healing and restoration, not frustration. Thanks, Kristi.

  • http://www.revtrev.com RevTrev

    Very good advice Artie. Easy to read…very hard to actually do… I’ve got a thought that helps me in the process – "What if God created marriage to make us holy, not happy?"

    It helps make it easier to lay down my life. (I said easier, not easy :)

    • Anonymous

      Trev, you are laying a big one down there bro. Thanks!

  • Liza

    The whole ‘pee your pants’ thing turns me off, frankly. Come on, really??

    • Anonymous

      Really, it was written for husbands. They get it.

      • http://andybackus.com Andy Backus

        I get it.  My wife scares me to death, but she also loves me to death.  Nobody prays harder for me or is more encouraging to me than my wife.  Thanks for the encouraging reminder.

  • C.O.G

    I’m not married yet, but i’m sure to share the pants comment with him when i do. i love it

    • Anonymous

      Ha! Yeah, print it out so you don’t lose it.